非一般鸟窝

A comfortable bird nest for a tall bird, a short but perfect bird, a wooden bird and a cute little bird.

Wednesday, March 16, 2005

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

I think I told this story to wooen before. Just think it's great!!


A young woman went to her mother and told her about her horrible life and how things were so hard for her that she wanted to give up. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil for twenty minutes without saying a word. Then she fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. At the last pot, she ladled out the coffee into a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity ... boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. "Which are you?" she asked her daughter.

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a break-up, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavour. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?



Being in a foreign country, we are like in hot water. I wonder how will everyone looks like after 4 years. Will we still look and act the same? I doubt. I have final tmr, so this is another pot of hot water. If I continue typing this.. I will become carrot.. bye bye! :D

7 Comments:

  • At 3/17/2005 07:24:00 AM, Blogger Mandy said…

    yeah...nice story..I love one story you told us before..the one about prawn and crab..i love it so much...if u have time, can u tell it again??

     
  • At 3/17/2005 10:18:00 AM, Blogger Wearn said…

    :">
    So many ppl like my stories.. no ppl like my story here. Shien, I doubt if u really like that story.. because it's about prawn and sotong!! not crab!! bird u..

     
  • At 3/17/2005 03:37:00 PM, Blogger RJ said…

    NICE STORY!!!
    I want to be the coffee bean, but, I think I've all the three things characteristics...kinda contradicting one another...
    Carrot - I doubt I'll remain strong after some adversities...Well, I've always perceived myself being tough and optimistic, but then, too many a time, I find that what i think i am is different from what I really am.
    Egg - This is less like me. Well, once I am harsh towards someone (like the hard eggshell), I don't think I'll change. Even if I change, it will definitely take time. Prejudice and bias, are often the causes of my harshness. And I really believe in what I perceive something at the first sight I see it. Frankly, I met a friend in Standard 6, and I dislike her since the first time I saw her. She's just too arrogant, and her personalities suck. And, I remain to be biased until now, even though she is the top scorer in STPM in Perlis now. So what? If her attitude remains the same, there is no point for me to change my perception on her. Da bian is always da bian, it won't change to gold.
    Coffee bean - I used to think that I have the characteristics of the coffee bean, hoping to change the situation/environment/people me towards betterment. But, who am I? Just feel that I'm too vulnerable to change the world. I used to wrote letters to newspaper, complaining and revealing how the prefects in my school are. And yes, it was published, and the teachers and the prefects saw my article. And a teacher approached me saying that I was really brave to write such an article, and he somewhat agreed with what I said. He said I'm a fen4 nu4 qing1 nian2...But then, when asking about whether or not there will be a change in the prefectorial board, he said that this will hardly happen. And me, alone, won't make much a difference...So, I'm not a successful coffee bean. But still, I am hoping that I'll be the coffee bean, having the ability to make the world a difference, adding flovors and taste to the plain water....

    Hey, I like this man! It's something like revealing and evaluating my own personalities...hehehe, but then, too bad lar, still farway from having good personalities. :p

    Wearn, so what's the story about prawn and sotong? Share with me oh!!

     
  • At 3/17/2005 05:31:00 PM, Blogger Mandy said…

    oops...i am sorry..yeah..it's sotong..just always relate prawn with crab..sorry sorry.i love tat story very very very much..it is so meaningful that i will think a lot everytime i remember it..

    wah..renjie u r brave! i would never do that..heheeh..no courage,1/2 of my classmates are prefects..didnt like the system though..but never thought of complaining them..hehehe

     
  • At 3/17/2005 07:12:00 PM, Blogger RJ said…

    Well, i think I was among the less than 10 or 15 people in my class who didn't wear a tie. And, I was surrounded by prefects in my class. Imagine a square being divided into 9 smaller squares. And I was sitting right in the middle of the square!!! The 3 ones sitting in front of me were AJK of the prefectorial board. The one sitting on my left is the penolong ketua pengawas keceriaan (there are 2 types of pengawas, one is keceriaan and one is disiplin). The one on my right is another AJK. The ones sitting behind of me are: ketua pengawas disiplin, ketua pengawas keceriaan, and another AJK....Hohohohoho...but i don't really care lar~ cos we are too close already, and they know that i was telling the truth!!! :-)
    Anyway, I almost "fan1 lian3" with my friends because of the prefects thing...he's too rigid and followed the rule, not flexible at all...haha, then i cannot tahan and just ignore him!! :p

     
  • At 3/17/2005 07:59:00 PM, Blogger RJ said…

    I don't hate prefects, just that there are several blacksheep that spoil the whole image of the prefectorial board. I've seen it myself. Whenever there are spot-checks, prefects are the ones to keep their liquid papers and other banned stuff at safer place. And later on, they confiscate banned stuffs from the students. Isn't that they are showing the bad examples? And there are even extreme cases when they use the confiscated items as their own items, ie, use the liquid paper, as if they are theirs. Well, I don't use liquid paper, so, that's not mine to be confiscated. But...i just don't like the black sheep in the prefectorial board.
    Yah, I know there are tons of good prefects out there. I myself was a prefect back in primary school, and I was apppointed to be the head prefect but i rejected it (dont ask me why, i also duno :p).
    I know that being a prefect is not easy, so I salute and respect those prefects who manage to handle things well, who manage to gain respect from students and act fairly but are able to control the discipline as well. But sorry to say that, I can't find many such prefects in my school.

     
  • At 3/18/2005 10:14:00 AM, Blogger Mandy said…

    I was never a prefect..i dont want to be one..not because of what, i'm just not type of person that desires power control. I enjoy being the ordinary person who has her own ways of living..struggling to obtain power is never my goal..
    hehe..so i was a librarian. hehe..walking along the bookshelves made me alive!!!

     

Post a Comment

<< Home